There’s a lot of information out there about how words can hurt, and how people can shoot down ideas with non-verbal communication like a shrug or a disapproving frown.
It happened to me, yesterday.
I was excitedly telling a group of my Playcentre peers all about my readings over the holidays, my enthusiasm for some of the concepts, and the ideas I wanted to try.
Two of my peers were encouraging – they know that new ideas are worth trying, and they felt my plan was worth a shot.
The other two weren’t so sure. They were concerned about the people involved in my plan. And they used both their words and their non-verbals to tell me so. Shot down all of my explanations. My peers did not tell me to stop my plan, but they did not offer a better solution, either.
Even though it was split evenly – half encouraging, half not – the funny thing is that I let the discouragement fill my mood.
Bubble popped, I wasn’t as happy to join in the rest of the discussion, and I was grumpy until after dinner.
I stewed over what they said while I told Hubby all about it.
And then he said “What did the other two say?”
As I re-told the opposite side of the story, my optimism came back.
I’m ready to go again. I will start my plan, keeping in mind the objections, but positive about what I am about to do.
It will work. I know it will. And if I start it right, it will snowball positively, so that it doesn’t even require me to keep going.
One small step at a time.